2.04.2010

awkward pants: fashion and community



I was sitting in my office recently when I heard a conversation in the next room that caused my ears to perk. It was filled with a bunch of "exciting" buzz words like "community" and "discipleship" and "cluster" and "huddle". The whole purpose of the conversation seemed to be trying to find ways of recreating a feeling of intimacy within a church structure designed for anonymity. this is a big task.. and to hear the bits of conversation was humorous in an ironic sort of way.

The whole concept kind of reminds me of pre-worn fake-ripped cookie cutter-faded jeans.

Do you remember when you would go to the store and find a standard pair of jeans. You had some options... the right cut, color, brand, and size... you know, the basics.


Once you had the right pair of jeans it was up to you and life to determine how they would take on a unique look.

That small rip that you patched it up has a story behind it.... and you can tell it.

Why yes that is a paint stain, because I was painting in these jeans and some dripped... you might also appreciate the oil stain near it.

That mild discoloration in the denim? It is from dirt, sweat, and life...

The faded denim was a symbol of months, maybe years of commitment and bonding... If you had bought them that way it would have been awkward, but because they shaped to you, they are familiar... and you are dreading the point at which the knees bust apart, because you know that at a certain point... jeans are just done and you will have to start with a fresh pair and allow life to shape them uniquely.


Then one day... somebody decided to skip the important part and sell an imposter. The pre-worn fake-ripped cookie cutter faded-jeans entered the scene... the worst thing to happen to denim since the words "acid" and "washed" decided to join forces and asked the 80's for fashion advice.

There they hang... out of place. There is no unique history behind the alterations... the person who buys them has no commitment or past with them... and it is very apparent. They just look bad and wrong and terribly awkward on people.... and are stupid.

... and lame.

The real thing is much better, but takes time and commitment.

I think the same is true for intimacy within a small group of people. We can structure things efficiently, and use the right group-building resource pack, and be strategic in cultivating community through our advertising and terminology... some of that might guide things in a good direction. At the end of the day though, intimacy takes time, commitment, shared experiences, converstaion, etc... Building a community is not a clean and simple process... it is messy and it takes real sacrifice.

Your jeans won't fade or rip or get paint stains if you don't put them on and live life.

Your community will not take on a unique shape or grow in intimacy unless you are willing to do the work it takes to allow change to take place.

If true sacrifice and self-disclosure are not involved, the closest thing you will have to "community" is the pre-worn fake-ripped cookie cutter-faded jeans version of it... and that is just awkward.

authenticity is a good thing.

1.20.2010

eastwestern christianity 101


Well.. this entry will be putting an end to what has been my longest writing break for months now. I have been pretty busy though between getting engaged and traveling to India and back.

I am in MN again now and hopefully have some thoughts in my head that are worth sharing with you. I think that I had promised a part 3 to my previous posts... that might still come at some point.. but this is not that point. I'm going to talk a little bit about something else.

What if the "western" process of thinking and understanding is limiting our ability to truly live out a life of devotion to Jesus? That would be a pretty significant thing to find out, if you ask me. What if in our attempt to understand and methodically capture a concrete understanding of faith and God, we have saturated our perspective with an overly structured and limited approach to spirituality and have built ourselves into a cage that is essentially restricting a more complete understanding of the good news and it's intended holistic application?

I think one big issue that christian's in the United States of America face is that faith easily becomes a segmented part of life, and that piece of life has formed into it's own sub-culture. The majority of American christian's are able to clearly draw the line between what is their "faith life" and what is their "______" life. Which seems to go against the whole point of following Christ.

well... that's enough of an entry for me... kinda short. kinda sweet? maybe. I'll write again soon.

Peace.

12.17.2009

a tiger and his six-year-old - Part II




This series is inspired by a Calvin and Hobbes comic that touches on an important concept. If I remember correctly from my bathroom reading, the first picture is of Calvin having recently caught a butterfly in a glass jar. The second frame Hobbes somberly comments "If people could put rainbows in zoo's, they'd do it". The third frame is of Calvin looking contemplative, holding an empty glass jar high in the air and the butterfly fluttering away to freedom.

Last entry talked about the negative effects of replicating cheaper versions of beautiful creations such as art, food, and music.

This entry will deal with something far more serious.

orangutans

... not really. It will deal with faith and maybe love... and possibly we will touch into the primate realm, but don't get your hopes up.

I want to clarify something before I go any further in this post though. My argument is not that having wide spread access to beauty is a bad thing. It is an observation of the negative impact that this widespread availability can have when....

A: we lose our appreciation of the beauty because we have become numb to it.

B: we begin settling for cheap or false imitations of authentic beauty.

C: we can no longer differentiate between the authentic and the artificial.

If inspiration was found from somebody hearing Beethoven's 5th and it pushed them into a creative frenzy which led to yet another masterpiece being produced... that would not be a bad thing. It would be a bad thing if because you heard Beethoven's 5th your entire life, you never learned to appreciate what a beautiful piece of art it is. Make sense?

application:

So, most of you probably already see the connection to faith that exists with this concept.

Let's use the Gospel as an example.

Is it a bad thing that the Gospel is very widespread and available for many people to receive?

No, not a bad thing at all.

Is it a bad thing when a snot nosed kid goes through Sunday school, confirmation, all the bible camps, church retreats and mission trips, and eventually finds their way to a college campus and realizes that for the past eighteen years of their life they were simply being sent down a giant feel-good conveyor belt with a wwjd fish sticker slapped on it?

Yes, it is a bad thing.

and hey... guess what. this happens. a lot.

When I was in India last year one of the missionaries there made an interesting comment about the United States. He said something like "You are so clean you are making yourselves sick". This was referencing our lack of natural immunity because of our sterilized environments and how when we get out of those settings our bodies will often suffer more harm than they normally should because we never had an opportunity to allow our natural defenses to be built up.

Cleanliness is a good thing though? right?

I guess so, but when you realize that eventually you will find your way into a dirty environment you better be prepared to handle your surroundings appropriately.

Sometimes when we have exposure to something foreign or "bad" there is a change that takes place in us that allows us to survive. Physically you can see this happen when you get a flu shot... what makes the shot beneficial is that a small amount of the flu virus is placed in your body and it triggers your immune system and allows your body to become aware of a real potential threat and from this awakening of the flu as a threat, your body is now able to identify it and fight against it.

Another way to avoid getting the flu is to stay submerged in a bathtub filled with bleach and to use a filtered snorkel to help you maintain your breathing.

I think that many student ministries (parents included) use the bathtub of bleach approach to "discipleship" ( read-protecting) . They make sure their youth are constantly surrounded by the "right" friends, in the "right" school, listening to the "right" music... etc, and in most cases "right" can be roughly translated into "safe". Instead of holding hands with someone older and wiser and walking through a full spectrum of life, they only experience a very small and controlled glimpse of one specific picture of life. The result is that when they inevitably are forced to deal with opposition or danger, they are not prepared to stand on their own two legs and many times turn against the thing that has retarded their development... in this example, it is the church.

Jesus didn't do things like that. He made sure the disciples experienced the good, the bad, the rich, the poor, the joyful times, the times of mourning etc. As he walked his disciples through life, he was able to teach them and prepare them for a time when they would be on their own. Jesus did not use the bathtub of bleach technique... he gave his disciples a shot in the arm and said "this is real life, it doesn't feel good all the time and it is not going to. Remember that you are walking out my example, my love, my grace, and sharing my message to the lost and hurting with your words and actions. Now go out there and get your hands dirty because you know where to find me when you are bloodied and bruised and need to be bandaged up, and remember that through it all I will continue growing in my love for you" - (I think that is in "the message" version of Luke)

His life was set an example of true beauty, and demonstrated practically what the gospel looks like.

The majority of christians have settled for a cheaper more widespread version of the life we were called to live.

Bleach that.

translation:

A: we lose our appreciation of the beauty because we have become numb to it: The truth of salvation in Christ is absolutely beautiful. Our lives demonstrating freedom through Christ are just as beautiful and are a powerful testimony to who our God is. When we only see an environment that "celebrates" this or, at minimum claims it, we very quickly grow numb to the beautiful truth we are living in. This is even more the case if you have grown up within the system. This is an example of our faith changing from a belief to a sub-culture. We must be in "the world" in order to walk out our calling in obedience. It also reminds us of why the gospel really is good news.

B: we begin settling for cheap or false imitations of authentic beauty. When we simply begin protecting ourselves from the world instead of being a light in the midst of darkness, we are settling for a cheap imitation of our call. The Jesus of Suburbia talks about this concept. It argues that we have settled for a cheap and watered down imitation of Christ and in doing so we have settled for a cheap and watered down version of Christianity. I would agree.

C: we can no longer differentiate between the authentic and the artificial. The comfortably fear driven and gluttonous country club housewife who prays to Jabez for more Oil of Osteen and won't buy a cup of coffee from a "secular" store or give a dime toward a ministry that allows people with tattoos or minorities to do the work of the Lord, and is starting an anti-brothas to mothas team, can call herself a christian. The Apostle Paul is called a christian. Maybe that was a bad example? Basically, the cost of following Christ has lowered significantly since Jesus was walking the earth and demonstrating to us just what it meant to be his disciple, but we are still all put in the same category of "christian".

Ok... that is enough for now. we will approach "love" in part three perhaps?

Meanwhile, as usual, anyone who wants to give feedback is always invited...

... any bleach-babies out there?

12.15.2009

a tiger and his six-year-old - Part I



There is a Calvin and Hobbes comic that touches on an important concept. If I remember correctly from my bathroom reading, the first picture is of Calvin having recently caught a butterfly in a glass jar. The second frame Hobbes somberly comments "If people could put rainbows in zoo's, they'd do it". The third frame is of Calvin with a delightful smile, holding an empty glass jar high in the air and the butterfly fluttering away to freedom.

I have learned a few things from my times with this unlikely pair, but this is one of the most profound illustrations that has left an impression on me.

I think it is true that when we find a good thing we are often times tempted to duplicate it or contain it in hopes of preserving the beauty we experience with it. We certainly do this with physical things... we recreate cheaper versions of beautiful art in hopes of spreading it to a wider audience, we record and distribute beautiful pieces of music at ease, we go to a restaurant chain that serves the same spectrum of food whether you are in Nairobi, Panama City, or Minneapolis.

We duplicate and distribute beauty freely...

...but...

...in doing so, have we lost our true appreciation of what is beautiful?

There was a time where you could not hang the Mona Lisa on your wall.

There was a time where Beethoven's 5th could only be experienced in a packed music hall.

There was a time when Curry could not be found in Minnesota.

It is hard for me to believe that I have the same appreciation for these expressions of art and beauty that I would if they were not readily available to me. It is extremely easy for us to lose our respect and cheapen our experience because of our abundance.

It is not so much that we have put a rainbow in a zoo. Rather, we have decided to make artificial rainbows and have them available every minute of every day to whoever can afford them. We didn't put the butterfly in a jar... we just made a cheaper version of the butterfly and flooded our streets with an overabundance of them.

love.

If we did this with music, art, and food.. do you really think that we would limit ourselves to simply replicate and cheapen the physically beautiful pieces of life...

Have we decided not to do this with the heart of true beauty, but limited it only to the work of our hands?

I would argue that we have not limited it at all.

The physical manifestations of this idea are very apparent, but the emotional and spiritual impacts are just as real, and we will talk about those in my next blog.